Aita for giving my soon to be ex husband A moron opens themselves up to manipulation, and all just fyi, cursory amounts (yes, 10k is cursory) are typically left to people in wills to show to the court that this person was not forgotten about. That sounds mean but I’d really be more concerned with myself. My first husband was abusive to put it plainly. ADMIN MOD AITA for exposing my ex-husband to my Kids and her parents . I left my husband. In today’s gripping story, a woman uncovers the shocking truth: her soon-to-be ex-husband c Betrayal, heartbreak, and a dilemma that could change everything. "AITA for laughing at my crying ex husband and calling his suffering karma?" and he chose to divorce me because I wouldn’t go back on our agreement and give him children. Well, I won a trip and wanted to surprise my daughter with it, but the dates fall on her days my ex AITA for not helping my sister who became homeless just after she gave birth to her and my soon to be ex-husband's baby? shocking stories Daily reddit stor NTA. For example, 41% (37 of 91) of women killed by a male partner/former partner in England, Wales and Northern Ireland in 2018 It was my choice to give him a couple days space to come to terms with everything and I will contact him when I’m ready. Reply reply [deleted] • NTA she's not your responsibility. We will help Grace pay off any loans she may have to get as soon Let’s say in an alternate universe that you do this, when this child is 25 and he’s telling people “oh yeah actually my dad cheated on his first wife with my mom, she ended up having me around the same time his ex wife had another baby. Wedding planning has so far been going alright except AITA for Not Helping My Sister Who Became Homeless After Giving Birth to My Soon-to-Be Ex-Husband's Baby?Summary:My sister had an affair with my husband, got Apparently back in January or February of this year she showed up to a couple of events or parties that my friend was at and was glued to his buddy and even went to hook up during one of the parties with his friend. I have a son(19M) that is currently a highschool senior. We all had to go to court to get my husband declared not the father and the real father declared the father. Except on Feb 20th my dad announced he'd be out on business till the 12th and my grandparents are stuck visiting relatives in Italy and so I really had nowhere to go and my mom jumped at the chance to have me stay with her. 1 Update - Medium Original Post - November 18, 2023 . We settled because he knew what a lawsuit would get me. Ex just randomly looked me up and started trying to insert himself back into my life. Personally, for me, if my spouse asks for a separation, I would just start filing for divorce. If you intend to stay with husband for some reason, then you need to seriously work through those logistics to ensure your daughter can come home, & figure out how your husband's affair child factors into that equation. My husband wanted to get them a decent wedding gift and tried borrowing money from friends and neighbors but got turned down. Reply reply Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. AITA for giving my friend unfiltered honest advice about her husband after she asked? upvotes Yesterday, at my 35-week prenatal appointment, my soon to be ex-husband let me know that he is dating a new chick. Not the A-hole Long story short (F)39 married to (M)42 for 19 years before we got divorced (This was a Muslim Arranged My ex and I co-parent pretty well in my opinion and usually get along fine. My husband was arrested. I would see my spouse differently, and it would never be the same. I'm an Indian woman who came to the United States on a students visa and met my ex husband 'Dean'. I use my craft skills to make gifts. She called our aunt to say she couldn't find a place she could afford overnight, so aunt gave her my address and told her to stay with me. Me (F 50) and my husband (M 51) were married for 21 years. I took advantage of him because he felt guilty. AITA for not agreeing my soon to be ex husband to pick up our daughter from my sisters house? He told me last minute he had the weekend off and only way he would get to see her is if he picked her up from my sisters house but she wouldn’t want to interact with him because he makes her feel uncomfortable. . Too young. So when my kids are visiting their mom, there are 6 kids in the house. He missed her early years and now I think it changed I felt like i should give a final edit now that there is a somewhat conclusion. I have my daughter 4 days out of the week due to her mothers work schedule. yeah duh kick him out! (sorry a little long/ first time posting) My ex-husband (34M) and I (34F) separated back in March of 2013 when my daughter was one year old. I sent him and my eldest a text saying where we were, and that he could All gold material and again they are worth decent amount of money. I was ready to be married for the rest of our lives. "AITA for not talking to my husband after finding out he went on one last date with his ex?" His ex was always “the one who got away” according to everyone around him. Not letting her get this kayak is going to potentially negatively impact her upcoming vacation. My daughter turned 18 last summer and moved back in with me full-time too. This is not the adult way to handle things. Useless to say, I couldn't do that. My ex-wife called me today and she started crying saying that she was not invited to my son's wedding. She is unfortunately going through a divorce because her husband emotionally cheated on her. AITA For Telling My Husband's Affair Baby's Family to either Come Get the Kid or I'm Calling CPS #aitareddit #redditstoriestok #podcastclip #fyp #aita Via r/AITAH. AITA for digging up my husbands past? So I (25f) have Also so my husband can have support as I’ll have my mom. But most states give the surviving spouse 100% of the estate under the premise that surviving spouse likely has children of the marriage to care for. I’m saying this so the next sentence I say will carry more weight because of experience: You are on the road to an abusive and toxic marriage. Update - November 19, 2023 (1 day after Original Post) . I(43F) have been with my partner(50M) for 6 years now. His tune changed when he came home to find me packing my stuff. A few days ago my ex-husband mistakenly transferred two payments of 8700 and 9275. It's a religious thing. My friend knows about everything, before sister’s 1st message. And tell him in writing (text or email) so that you can also The chance is vanishing small they would ever hear about it, it really was decades ago and very few people know about it other than my family who are still in any sort of contact with me. AITA for not helping my sister who became homeless just after she gave birth to her and my soon to be ex-husband's baby? I also married young, my ex also cheated, and also married and had children with the person he cheated with. I said absolutely not, there is no way in hell I am allowing that. He was a hardass and the kids found him overly strict (and I agree) and they didn't like being around him. Worth mentioning that our hospital doesn’t have a restriction on the amount of people who can be in the delivery room. Long story short in the the following years I took care of them he quit his job sold my car and I never got a dime. But this isn't about our marriage falling apart; it's This will probably be an unpopular take, but I think mom is considering the future. Yes this is real. And, if I may, it is MASSIVELY SHADY to try and manipulate an ex-spouse My MIL said “I don’t know why I let you marry that n-word with the hard er they are selfish. AITA for asking my husband to pay for our sons college with his daughters fund? I (36f) have been married to my husband (57m) for 2 wonderful years. My soon to be ex is also invited. My ex remarried a little over a year after our divorce and has 3-year-old twins with her new husband. He was cursing and started throwing bags around. My mom has light brown hair, my dad has black hair. We are still best friends, visit each other's homes, occasionally sleep in the same bed on trips. Apparently, adoptions are carved so far down in stone, my ex could have molested and pimped him out (he absolutely didn't) and the courts wouldn't nullify the adoption because the father truly loved the child and had But now I am the one who is in the wrong. I (29F) and my husband (30M) have been together for 8 years. He confronted my husband calling him an unhinged opportunist and said he was going to sue him for taking the money after accessing it through me. About a year before his brother left his wife for a mistress that he started seeing when his wife was pregnant. My husband and I make about AITA for using my soon to be ex wife’s history against her? My wife filed for divorce after the birth of our third child. He did this at around 7:40am in the morning and I didn’t notice because I worked a double/night shift and was getting ready for bed. I explained about her messages, friend believes I’m AH & I should give her the ring. AITA for going after child support from my ex wife and her husband even though I said I would not after the said they wanted input on how I raise my daughter? My ex-wife, Sandy, and I got married young. Do not let your soon to be ex gaslight you into going back to him. The super weird part was that I'd been with my husband for 15 years at that point. My MIL kept pushing to get an emergency key, She promised that she only use it in an emergency but giving the fact that she had an emergency key to our old apartment and walked in on us being intimate twice (but my husband didn't think it was big deal) I just couldn't trust her so I just sent her a fake key (after she kept pushing) and she had "AITA for not returning money my ex-husband sent to me mistakenly?" rare-temp. My daughter and I are very close. This is very well documented. She's your ex, not your partner, and it's not a dire emergency, so I don't see why you should give her anything. She posted in r/AITAH. I know the internet loves to hate on addicts, especially addict mothers, but given his manipulative behavior towards OP I bet he took advantage of the other woman’s drug induced lack of judgment or desperation to conduct the affair. Hun, I’ve been married for over a decade to my now husband. I work a full time job while he does a 3 times a week night shift. sorry my first time writing this out but I feel I need to get it out and I feel like I'm in the wrong. His cruel words about So when my husband and I started dating he would shower me in this "love". My husband is going mental and Emma, well she texted me swearing up and down that nothing happened with a “lol” and “don’t be this insecure and sensitive” I told her that this was between my husband and me and it had nothing to do with her and her answer was “It’s not like we fucked”. I wouldn’t be able to get a job in the industry forever. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I gave money from my late husband's estate to a girl who cared for us instead of our children [Warning: There are triplets in the story, which is on some users' "fake" bingo card] Originally posted in r/AITAH. Jeff was a single dad with a 2 year old girl. AITA for inviting my sisters soon to be ex husband and his affair partner (my best friend) to my wedding So give it to me straight AITA for just wanting a perfect day were everyone puts their differences aside for me She is a new mother and her ex-husband cheated on her, with someone she should have been able to trust, her sister’s A few days ago my ex-husband mistakenly transferred two payments of 8700 and 9275. Reply reply Honestly, it sounds like you need to kick husband to the curb & let him figure out how he needs to care for his affair child. I’m the dad of a 25 year old young woman who I love very much. He also accused me of making things unnecessarily hostile for no reason. If he doesn't want to earn a living, that's on him. It was very serious and he was told he could have died. I’ll keep you guys posted, thank you for She told us that she couldn’t pick us up because her kids wanted to go mini golfing. My ex had the AUDACITY to seek comfort in me because "now he knows what it's like to be cheated on" lmfao. My ex hasn’t brought it up again since but my oldest told me that their dad said they would be going. It was a huge eye-opener to me. Trigger Warnings: child abuse/neglect; threatening behavior; Mood Spoiler: Happy ending Original Post: September 1, 2023. The name is embroidered onto a blanket that has been passed down from generation to generation, and the baby is wrapped in the blanket when it is born. And just my luck that my mom's anniversary with her husband was on Sunday. We were pressured by our families. He has shown you who he really is and you need to remember that. My husband and I have talked last night and he decided Noah won’t get the entire fund. I'm sorry for grammar, english isn't my first language and used Google Translate I'm 23f and I'm engaged to my fiance 26m. I once gave my lawyer two phone numbers. Some background to start. So my phone was charging on the nightstand. It was myself, my husband, his brother, his parents and his sister and her new boyfriend. I am now 8 months pregnant, almost 9 with a girl. I panicked. You're not hiding, you're protecting your peace. (NY and MA) We have 2 kids (8m) and I am going to divorce my husband. We are going to the shelter on Monday where we can start rebuilding pieces of our lives and honestly, I wouldn't shed a tear if my soon to be ex decides to just give up his The ex, who I will call Patty, and my husband Doug broke up on good terms and she will reach out here and there to say happy birthday, merry Christmas and she reached out So, I (34F) am in the middle of a messy divorce with my soon-to-be-ex-husband, Tim (36M). He graduated now and is getting married in a few months. We have a 2 year old and I'm 6 months pregnant. I’m (35F) and my husband is (36M), we’ll call him A. The courts declared that the child was my husband's, even though the real father had signed the birth certificate and everything. It was 9:30 at night. 9K comments. Edit : Some of you asked in my original post if I really thought I was the AITA for i giving my soon to be ex-husband an ultimatum in regards to custody? AmItheAsshole Original 411 7528 2021-06-01 09:44:07 Look i know the title already sounds bad but hear me out. My husband is in the military, and when we got married in March we were aware that he was about to be sent on his first deployment in October. I (27,F) have been with my husband (29,M) for five years, married for AITA for not telling my soon to be ex-husband my sister is living with me . He divorced his pregnant wife to get with me, but he saw his daughter Kristen whenever he wanted. So now she is accusing me of being a theif who is basically stealing her baby’s chances of having a family. He has explained our kids’ allergies to her and how she can’t smoke when the kids are with him. hopefully soon to be EX husband. he and his ex have never had a good relationship after her having multiple affairs she is now married to the last one. My partner has a daughter(21F) who is going to college. "A few months ago I refused to let my husband have my daughter on his birthday. My brother went around and got my tea set. He’s been trying to get back with me since we NTA. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: My Ex-husband and I have an unconventional arrangement for custody of our daughter, my boyfriend knew this entering the relationship but now 2 years on is insisting I I was four years into a relationship with another man, and we had a kid. Trigger Warning - Stillbirth, verbal abuse. My ex and this girl have been together since at least April of last year and she was hooking up with some dude just a few months ago. I know this sounds like an exaggeration, but I promise you, it absolutely is not. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. I’m not even overly keen on allowing my husband to watch me go through that, let alone his brother. He was invited anyway before I found out certain stuff. The next day I not only went to the police to report the theft, I also called my brother who lives in the same city as my husband's sister. BUT we are not romantically in love and we do not hook up. I wasn't done university and she was fresh out of high school. Thank you once again. Thanks, we are very much excited. She downgrades me ever since the engagement announcement. AITA For telling my husband i don't care about his kids? Your soon to be ex-husband was just a complicent in his kids' actions as his ex-wife was Give your husband 24 hours to find and return your earrings or you will file a police report against his two children fir theft. My brother then said “it doesn’t take 26 minutes to tell someone you have a brain tumor”. I don't care what your intentions where, it wasn't your choice to make. Well, my MIL most certainly knows that now, since my ex is now living with her and moved out. A few days later one of her 8 boyfriends calls us looking for her. My aunt told her that my parents were out of town and she should go to their house. We have been living together for 5 of them. Finally. My brother is (37M) we’ll call him B, and my now ex-SIL is (37F), we’ll call her C. My lawyer tried to nullify the adoption per my request. I am pregnant with our first baby, and I am 6 months pregnant. aita for being mad at my soon to be husband for not keeping boundaries with his ex wife? we have a blended family of 4 kids 2 each all 13 and under youngest being 9 we've been together 4 years. I told him that the call was to tell her about my brain tumor & upcoming surgery. So to give some context, I (f32) have been married to my husband (m39) for 4 years. It first got weird when it came time for us to order. I spoke to my lawyer and she said that it was a bad idea to change the timeline we had established for the dissolution of our marriage. While my husband may say he's been blindsided, but the fact is that this has been years in the making. All of this, from the first message till now has been a week. His family fully accepted the mistress and blamed his wife for him cheating. There is nothing more important than a women's right to privacy. My ex will be getting money from the accident I imagine. I have made my point and now I need to face my fears and AITA for refusing to meet with my soon to be ex under no circumstances? LogWorking1396 2553 2024-05-10 17:34:48 My ex was on a work trip and a lady from his work sent me a video of him dancing and making out with a colleague of his. We lived in his parent's old house, so that is where my husband has been staying since the house is only in his name after his parent's left it to him. He cheated on me 8 months into our marriage on my birthday so we are separated and on the way to divorce. His girlfriend (22) could not handle it anymore and brought the baby to him at work and left. Later I gave birth to our daughter Sasha but my husband was cheating on me and we took a break, I forbade him to see our daughter. Thanks, Mom. Until very recently I worked as an administrative assistant there while my husband is a marketing associate. He did and I told him I would sue. "He found my response really hurtful, that I would act like he’s abandoning me and the kids" This made me CRINGE because this is the kind of bullshit my (soon to be ex) husband says. I have two sons ages 16 and 14 with my ex-wife. My husband considers Noah his son and is in all but his name. My husband and I separated 7 months ago. 'you lose them how you got them' or 'marrying an AP (male or female) makes a job opening' and the like. My husband and I have been separated for about 10-months and are in the process of getting a divorce. at one point, i had resigned myself to being miserable for the rest of my life. She Yeah, there are like all SORTS of clichés regarding marrying the AP. However I think my husband hates my ex not for what he did to me, but thinks I'm comparing him to my ex when I'm not. My ex dropped his side piece to try to get me back. have to wait until you're literally in danger and had your property damaged for your fiancee to set boundaries with his former spouse's family, which he isn My (36F) husband ( 39M) and I are likely divorcing. I haven’t spoken to my ex in 5 years. A little background: Me (32f) and my husband (32m) are currently separated and currently work in different cities. The low end price of a house in our area and within their schools is about $300,000 right now. But that is not always the case, this guy married a 20 year old, moved her out of her home country back to his because he wasn't comfortable there, then gets shocked when throwing money at her doesn't make her happy. 34K votes, 4. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I would like to be judged on asking my husband to use my actual job title when he introduces me, and stop his joke. To the best of his knowledge she is in Spain. In my husband's family, there is a tradition of naming a baby before it is born. It wasn't anything fancy or expensive, we just went to Kelsey's. My (50 female) Husband (52 male) cheated on me 25 years ago. My soon to be ex husband passed away two months ago in an accident. my partner would put my child's well being before a stupid party. I have a childhood friend whose parents A month ago, I (48F) left the " home" my husband and I shared with our three kids ( 18M, 17M, 12F) with our two younger kids and moved into a sublet my sister paid for. Never had children). However her boyfriend's ex wife and kids will be getting his estate and insurance payout. He does something really inconsiderate, I object and he'll accuse me of being hurtful and he can't believe I'd say he's a bad father (never said that) etc. ” My husband said that some are selfish but not all. I got pregnant a few months into our marriage and gave birth to our daughter Asha. He started making the phone calls & one of those calls was to my soon to be ex-SIL. I truly understand how u feel. I used wonder(and now don't care) if they dated before our divorce. I wish I’d made this up. He died a week ago. AITA for giving my husband an ultimatum . Yesterday he came home saying Nora wasn't home and he and my stepdaughter had to leave after waiting for an hour. 3K comments. NTA. I was simply bringing up the fact that if my ex and I could manage our time to make these trips happen when he was technically always working my husband and I could work something out. Our marriage reached a bitter end when I learned she had remained married to me for over three years so I would support her through returning to school so she could switch careers to an even better paying one, despite her old one paying as much as mine. I was having brunch with my friend, my mobile was on the table, a message from sister popped up & my friend saw it. Something something biological clock. 5 year old son together, and we are sharing custody of him. My soon to be ex-husband returned home a few days ago with his brother in tow and absolutely ransacked the house of anything that was his, including furniture and appliances that were his before we moved in. In my life, I've seen that people like u/aita_husband_deadex that can't seem to fathom having a relationship with an ex, especially after them knowing the ex for years and splitting on amicable terms are putting full on display that they are Was talking to my, soon to be ex, husband about some of the issues we had fallen into during our 20 year marriage (we are both in our sixties. Give him a frisbee and send him on his way, then change the locks. Likewise, if you simply fail to report assets or provide financial information to your spouse during a divorce, a court can order you to do so. We have 2 young boys, 3 & 5, who I have primary custody of. Daniel texted me back to coordinate plans for the kids’ playdate, and that was it. My old one and a new one with direction to never give new one to my ex-husband. Dan is 42 and on his 3rd engagement to an AP, with at least 1 engagement broken off due to infidelity on his part. Despite this that chance is not zero. He told his mom that I am who he AITA for not finding in me the strength to forgive my husband who cheated with HER? Yesterday evening, before my father came for me and my daughter, my future ex-husband asked me to stay, to not leave so soon, to give him a chance to explain everything. At the time this all happened, my husband had only met her once while at the office with Daniel. AITA for checking my husband's dashcam footage on his car without his consent . We were 20 when we got married and we were together since 14. Let's start from this, I'm autistic. The most dangerous time for a woman with an abusive partner is when she leaves them. I can deal with the situation until they’re all 18 and out of the house if it means we’re not spending at least $300,000. My kids were not close to the man. My family wasn't happy about the relationship but eventually relented when they realized we were serious about each other. Every minute he chose to spend with her in those three years is time taken from you and your children. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I knew this girl, she was from my neighborhood, I'd been in school with her for like, 10 years. She told my other friends & they are all saying the same things. I never liked Jeff and I never cared about his daughter one way or the other. My (51F) soon-to-be-ex-husband (54M) and I have been married for 22 years. 14K votes, 2. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be TA for telling my son and getting him involved and causing him to resent his dad instead of working it out with my ex to reach an agreement and fix the issue. Don't ever let them feel like you have let them behind and chosen your new soon-to-be husband's children over them. My ex has been married to her husband Sean for almost 3 years. Some backstory: After we got married a few red flags came out. If I thought they’d make me feel more stressed or uncomfortable than their presence would make me feel supported and comfortable they’d be gone. ——————————————————————————— I (25 f) am separating from my husband (38 m) after 1 1/2 years of marriage. this was me when i was married to my ex. Okayyy so you might see Ex-husband and think. Original Post - November 18, 2023 . I put my 6 year old in the stroller and we ran. When I was born I had red hair. I’m not really a big believer in divorce. He asked me to tell my ex to step down but I said no. Your soon to be ex-husband is a deadbeat and lazy vagabond. We divorced 2 years ago because we faced fertility issues and I got depressed and no amount of couseling helped us. My life is not fake. true. My MIL doesn't believe that women can be autistic. I (38F) have a 9 year old son Max and 6 year old daughter Olivia with my ex-husband Dan (35M). That is u/ExIsADipshit and her other account, u/ExIsADipshit2. I’ve been able to have a good relationship with my daughter and I enjoy my time with her, but there’s one thing about her that would give many people pause - she is a diagnosed sociopath. I don’t know, I feel like sometimes even my side of the family are thinking the same thing. My ex Tammy-Lynn tried to get me to give up custody of my son so that her new husband could adopt him and they could have a family that did not involve me. Asshole I have a daughter, Emily (16f) with my ex. That I have gone too far. I recently was diagnosed with uterine cancer, so I had a hysterectomy, and am now feeling much better. Similarly, my husband was born blonde, his dad had black hair and his mom dark brown. He cheated and I don't give second chances. My ex When my son turned 18 he moved back in with me full-time and started college. That makes the average length of relationships (2 marriages, 1 engagement, current engagement) My company and this org. Sister in law #3 berated me for sharing the text with my husband saying I should've confronted my mother in law alone instead of escalating the situation. Thank Dog for this. She also now has 2 step-kids (13 & 11) as well. · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · My soon to be ex-husband humiliated me on our wedding day and met his karma We had dinner with my sister-in-law so he could introduce her new boyfriend. Best of luck! My ex-husband was having (another) affair which brokebup our marriage (among many other things The nursed asked a few times if I wanted him back but each time I said no. Reply reply Elorram she needs to be upfront about it instead of giving OP an ultimatum of pay for my kids surgery or no wedding. She chose to live with my ex and his wife and kids the majority of the time because she has to share her room with her step sister Laura (15) at my house. I also want to add that he cheated with a woman compromised with a drug addiction. Not true, my ex-husband adopted my son and we divorced shortly after. meaning, your ex husband fully intended for this to be the distribution. Anyways, we have a 2. I have had to take a bit of a break form one of my ex's recently, because it made me sad when he got a Girlfriend. After I posted that I tried to make things work with my husband. I refused. My BIL has been with then gilfriend for 10 years and they recently got married. "WIBTA if I report my (soon to be ex)husband to his Chain of Command?" Me (22F) and my husband (24M) got married last year. The corrective surgery is incredibly expensive and not covered by insurance. AITA for kicking out my husband after a stupid prank he agreed not to do? Edit: I just wanted to thank everyone for all the support and reassurance on here and wanted to answer some questions and give an update QUESTIONS: he has been bonding with the baby but not quite Yes to everything here, gaslighting MF is gaslighting. I should have known better but I was young and in love. If you marry this man, you will be unhappy. I don't see the point in it. I found out she went to him behind my back so I tracked her, interrupted the party and forced my daughter to come home then grounded her for the stunt she pulled . When Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. He then went into the bedroom, stayed there for sometime then went out to visit his AITA for telling my mom's soon to be ex-husband that I am not responsible for his daughter? My mom married Jeff 5 years ago. She was remarried for 7 years and has two children with her late husband. He is fully aware of what people think about him leaving his ex and he gave the impression that he thought they were silly and childish. We've been together for 10 years, married for 7, and honestly, it’s been a downhill slide for the past few years. I don’t like Sean he’s always gave me a weird vibe. I was polite for the sake of being kind. 37K votes, 565 comments. It cost me a lot of legal fees but I got 50 50 custody of my son. We had a good marriage, but I guess he didn’t love me that much if he AITA for getting engaged to my ex-husband’s new GF’s ex-husband? Personal Write In you'll lose them forever. We were together for four years and married for five years from Cheating in some circumstances can be abusive absolutely, if it is pervasive, if there's gaslighting and if there's a huge level of deceit. We've been together for 10 years, married for 7, and honestly, it’s been a downhill slide for the "AITA for telling my husband's affair baby's family to either come get the kid or I'm calling CPS?" My (F53) soon to be ex husband Roger (47), whom I forgave for his affair, came home with a baby four months ago. They think this whole thing is hilarious. he wasn't a mama's boy, but ex-MIL would butt her nose into everything, even going against my specific wishes because it was what she wanted. My husband parents them. me and my first husband have been divorced I think 20 years now. She started gunning for full custody after getting jealous that I have started dating a new woman (21F). AITA for telling my ex to stop giving my daughter lunch money . My mother died in childbirth, so my dads ex wife took me in and gave me a room in her house and raised My intuition was right, let me explain. We've been married 7 years and a year and two months ago I gave birth to our daughter. I was at her beck an call for two to three hours with just a few breaks to drink something. We met 6 years ago and hit it off well. AITA for going off on my soon-to be Husband for returning my wedding dress? Me (f29) and my STBH (m33) are getting married soon. Honestly, I don't know why you gave him 10K, he doesn't deserve it. I guess my MIL was never told that I own the house my ex and I previously shared since she texted my sister, saying that I was going to be on the streets. This whole drama started days ago. He's shown the kind of man he is and I don't want to live in or raise daughters in that kind of environment. safe life with people who care about them. He spent almost 3 years with an ex and they broke up about 10years ago. And 100% without getting caught, he'd still be doing it and will probably do it again I left my ex husband because he was abusive. It blew my f*cking mind that someone I knew my whole life from my progressive town would ever fall into that dynamic. To be honest I felt nothing of the knowledge that he is dating someone new because this shit is the reason we are separated and it has taken me a while to break the feelings I have for this man. He did this at around 7:40am in the morning and I didn’t notice because I had just worked a double/night shift and was getting ready for bed. If it was up to me I don’t care if they’re my husband who I love or my ex/soon to be husband. If your lies are discovered by your spouse, your spouse's attorney, or a judge, you may face severe sanctions (monetary fines) or a perjury charge. We provide them with the same food we eat and whatever else they need. The plan is he will get enough for the first 3 years and the rest of the money will go to Grace. My sister lives three states from our parents and apparently I'm right in the middle. AITA for giving my son a new book before my nephew? r/AmItheAsshole My sister has been crying about this to my mom and any other relative who will listen, most of them won't. My husband snapped. So here’s a little backstory. Several of you have asked for an update on my ex husband giving me a year to change my last name back to my maiden name because his fiancee was uncomfortable with her and I having the same last name. Mom just had me and I was 12 at the time and I'm now 17m. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I forced my parents to choose between me and my exwife/ex best friend even though that meant they could potentially lose their chance to meet a pay and harm their AITA because I told my ex-husband's son the truth about why we divorced and how he came to be. I begged and begged. "AITA for giving my husband the cold shoulder after he ruined my Halloween?" For context, I’m a 25F and my husband is 29M. AITA? While I'm sad my husband died, I stopped loving him after the betrayal. My parents were on vacation. I tried everything for us to get along. he went on a small holiday just a few months after our daughter (currently 25 female) was born he went to a very small town Side note: we are Indian and my family was never ok with this wedding I come from a rich background while he is from a My ex and I split up when my daughter Sarah(14) was 4. We enjoyed our And his girlfriend (also at college) did his godd&mn laundry and sundry other chores for him. It was a huge deal for the family. My soon to be ex-husband humiliated me on our wedding day and met his karma instantly. A few months ago he had a spontaneous, extremely heavy, nosebleed and I had to take him to the ER. I once ran into them at an outdoor concert and I just spoke to my ex and pretty much ignored him (and he got the hint). My (21f) and my soon to be ex husband (21m) were together for about 5 years on and off. He said he didn’t know if he wanted to be with me that he would let me know on what he decides. He's been with his affair partner for as long as I've been with my live-in partner - three years can't be written off as a simple mistake. Tammy-Lynn and her husband had two kids together before she got sick. My husband and I have known each other since high-school and we shared the same friend AITAH for not telling my soon to be ex husband that the girl that he left me for has already cheated on him. Not the A-hole I (34F) live with my husband (37M) and daughter (7F). Where I live we cannot get legally divorced until 1 full year of separation. We officially divorced October 2016. My ex-wife and I share two children. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. I (30f) married my ex husband Ryan (30m) very young. I (34F) live with my husband (37M) and daughter (7F). You're still married. I called my brother, he picked us up, and we’ve been staying with him. AITA for telling my friend she should be nicer to her soon to be ex husband? I (27f) am really starting to get annoyed with my best friend (29f). And on every Christmas they'd gather at his father's house. They got messy and I found the messages. I didn't let my mother communicate with my soon to be ex-husband in order to take back a kayak she gave to us as a gift. But he just got snappy with me. My husband was livid and spent a couple of days calling me a lot of derogatory names. He told me I couldn’t do what I wanted with the college fund. My (F53) soon to be ex husband Roger (47), whom I forgave for his affair, came home with a baby four months ago. Better than better! I have a whole new lease on life! I've promised myself that from now on, I'm going to live life to the fullest! My husband of course was fully on board. I had to ask who she was even talking about and then asked why the hell she thought I would care. she went so far as to try to plan a baptism for my twins without my or my ex's consent. Also I would be a terrible partner if I failed to give my spouse the ability to have informed consent to everything. So, I (34F) am in the middle of a messy divorce with my soon-to-be-ex-husband, Tim (36M). The fact that Camilla had access to her husband’s phone is not weird to me; her actions were. Your ex and you have to interact due to the kids. Now my hair is light brown and my husband has auburn hair, with some gray of course lol. I told my ex husband to go ahead and sue and my husband was shocked that I agreed and condoned this mistreatment from my ex husband towards him. I walked towards my husband and said I wanted a divorce I went upstairs packed most of my clothes and left luckily I bought me another property that I could stay at that my husband didn’t know I said I would think about it. I didn’t need the money because I have a good job and everything was my ex husband’s. After I gave my order to the waitress her boyfriend paused. My divorce was different but my ex started dating her boss as soon as the divorce was finalized. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: The action I took was telling my husband to stop sponsoring his ex wife, and that action could make me an asshole because they have a children together Posted by u/throwaway-thanks-587 - 13 votes and 15 comments A dinner that i could've gotten a few bites of? A simple misunderstanding? They accused me of causing this shitshow and turning my husband on his own mother and disowning her like that. I am the bad person because I don’t want to see the man who broke my heart. We are not married and we do not plan to marry in the future. C grew up down the street from my brother and I, and though they each had a crush on each other years, they never pursued a relationship until they were in college. "AITA for telling my husband's ex that I must be his favorite since he married me?" Okay, so my 40sF husband 40sM have been off and on since we were 12, broke up at 22, took a 17 year break and got together 3 years ago and have been married for a little over 2. My ex left me for his “best friend” last year around AITA for telling my soon-to-be ex-husband that he can’t spend OUR money on his gf? So, about a month and a half ago my (32f) husband (37m) texted me and told me he “didn’t know about So what happened is that my husband has a new girlfriend (28f) and she’s a long time stoner. After they had a child my mom (of all people) called to tell me. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be the asshole for telling him to leave when he is greiving and has nowhere else to go. I took my name off the account so my ex husband was the only owner in the case that my (soon to be ex) Due to treatment schedule Nora only gets visitation with my stepdaughter for now, my husband drives my stepdaughter to see her mom 2 days a week. My husband didn’t give Camilla my number. I have a son from a previous relationship, Noah (18m) and he has a daughter from his previous marriage, Grace (17f). Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Same! Though I don't consider a separation a break. Thank god I didn’t have children with him. When my abusive ex was stalking me, he used to call my husband in the middle of the night to talk about how his wife was abusing him and try to get sympathy from my husband. I am NOT the Original Poster. My ex has seen our daughter a few times, those visits were awkward to say the least, but I managed. I tried to link the original post, but it is not allowing me to do so, and I’m not sure the best way to give an update, so I will try this. The next day my brother called me irate & wanted to know why my husband had called her. My soon-to-be stepdaughter suffers from a jaw deformity. NTA I’ve gotten messages asking for an update, so I’ll give one. Previously, she wanted to About two months ago I became pregnant what was supposed to be a life changing experience was ruined when I found out my soon to be ex husband Tristan was cheating on me with my sister Donna for nearly 2 years. are adversarial, at best. Her daughter is most likely going to be a 40 year old single mom and OOP’s mom knows that her daughter is probably going to be leaning on her heavily for child care and financial support, and who knows what kind of a position they are in to provide that. I 45 F used to be married to D for 6 M. My field is extremely secretive, and if clients discovered my spouse was working for a competitor, I would be permanently tainted. Anything. I was always afraid to be a mom because my parents aren't the best example but after spending so much time with my nieces and nephews I finally see what my husband saw the time I got to meet my oldest niece. I confronted my ex and told him to stop lying to the kids and he brushed me off and told me he would like to see me stop him from taking his kids anywhere. My husband and I work at the same company, and at the same department. They had been on my side from the start and had agreed that my sister's demands were ridiculous. your ex husband likely set it up this way so that his girlfriend could not challenge the will in court. I allowed him to stay so long as I didn't have to do anything. Our daughter is 13 and our son is 11. My brother and dad are going to come with me to collect my things while my soon-to-be ex husband is at work. My husband has a large family. Our marriage was over before the cheating came to light. accb cym treda jlwa biyjjq znc xtv lfpxt wbf wkmkokm